“Girls, it’s time we stand together. Not push each other down. If someone you know, or someone you follow does a good job or achieves something, applaud them..” I wrote this in August and now I think it’s time for that talk again. I don’t like that I have to talk about it as much as I do, because I wish with all my heart that it just came naturally to everyone. But I feel like we all need to be reminded sometimes. SIDE NOTE: I am not talking down on girls. I love girl power, this post is all about it, http://www.matildadjerf.com/girl-power-and-the-lack-of-it-26650244. But this is MY blog and I have to write about MY experiences. And in my experiences it’s girls who have been the meanest to me, and to people close to me. I hope that you are not looking for something that is not here, because all that is here is disappointment in the lack of girl power. Like I also wrote about in the post above. I love us girls, and you guys know that.
I remember in what was it, eight grade? these girls spit after me as I walked out from school. And they whispered bitch as I walked through the corridors. Back then it was devastating. No one should have to feel unwanted. Nowadays I know the fault wasn’t in me. It was in them. And i’ve always had a thought in my head that made everything feel a little bit better “when I grow older I won’t have to deal with stuff like this”. But then I became older and I noticed around me that things didn’t change. Adults are still children sometimes. And girls are still girls. Vicious if they are jealous or want something that you have.
Being 25 and still ganging up on one girl with your friend. Being 19 and still bullying people in school. Freezing out people because they don’t fit in to what you think is “right”. To all these girls, and yes – i’ve decided to only make this about girls. Because in my experience girls can be the meanest to other girls. STOP IT! We all need each other, we all need a friend. We need to stick together, empower each other and love each other. For all our differences, all our personalities and all our looks. And for the girl who has experienced the cruelty of other girls, remember – there is no one like you in this world! And that makes you unique. And unique people are special, which makes you special. And never ever, take anything personal. It’s just them being insecure. And to make them annoyed, show them you are anything but insecure. Because you are, if you just believe in YOU.
ps. we all know that its important for friends to be by your side when something goes wrong and you are sad. But something that shows true friendship is the friend that’s by your side when everything is going right and celebrates with you. NEVER forget that! If you friend is jealous of your success, it’s probably not a true friend.